My upcoming Workshops :

Positive Partner


01/31/19 - 02/07/19


Burnout Prevention



Marriage Repair -
The Art of Coming Home
From Work

Coping with Depression

Apologies that Work:
"The Reparative Apology"


(More articles)

Recent Blog Posts:

Six Mind-Boggling Myths
about Marriage


How to Make Your
Marriage Thrive!


Emotional Arguments
and Explosions


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How would you respond if your partner said,
"I love you, but I'm not in love with you anymore"?

If your partner recently said this to you, it probably followed years of your marriage getting more and more distant. If your partner made the above comment to you, it means you have missed many earlier warnings that something is seriously wrong in your marriage. There is help for marriages that are losing passion, connection and love. See if the items below also describe your situation:

  • Are you falling out of love with your partner?
  • Are you fighting and arguing too much of the time?
  • Have hurtful past events damaged the trust between you and your partner?
  • Are there painful communication problems in your relationship?
  • Did the romance go out of your marriage after
    your children were born?

Are you or your partner unhappy in your marriage?  Are you concerned about loss of trust, love or attraction? In Couples Counseling, you will learn ways to repair your marriage - to restore affection, passion and respect.

We work with couples and individuals, helping to improve their relationships and their lives.  We have been successfully guiding struggling couples to improve and repair their marriage for many years.  We help couples create a marriage where each partner loves, respects and listens to the other.   It may be difficult to imagine, but for those who do the work of marriage counseling, real change is possible. 

If you are in a relationship that is struggling, I recommend that you seek out help sooner, rather than later.  Many spouses have no idea how remote and distant their partner is feeling -- and whether or not they are thinking about separating and divorcing.  Whether you call me a marriage counselor, marriage therapist, couples counselor, or even couples therapist, I am a therapist that specializes in relationships and helping couples repair the damage to their relationship.

Call me if you would like to talk to me about psychotherapy, would like to figure out how to talk to your spouse about coming with you to marriage counseling, or would like to schedule an appointment. You can reach me at either:

Sonoma County: 707-583-2305
Marin County:  415-339-7890  

Therapists can be very effective at helping you improve your relationships with your partner, co-workers, friends and family.  Would you like to find out more about couples therapy or individual therapy?


Apologies that Work: "The Reparative Apology"

Apologies do not always work at repairing damaged relationships for a reason.  The reason is: many people have a misunderstanding of what an apology is and what it is for.  And many people avoid offering their apology because of this misunderstanding.  For many people apologizing means admitting they are wrong and the other person is right.  It’s an attempt to try to restore harmony in the relationship by admitting they are less than and the other person is better.

For other people it is a meaningless word...said to try to make the other person stop being angry.  This version of the apology may sometimes work, but it frequently does not because it is more of a manipulation than a sincere way of communicating.

So how do you apologize if you don’t think you did anything wrong? (to read the rest of this article).


My office is in downtown Petaluma at: 10 Steps to a Happier Marriage -Free Report

222 Weller Street #205, Petaluma CA  94952

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